Self Love Is Not Soft. It’s Revolutionary.

There are parts of me I learned to hide to stay safe. The loud part. The sensitive part. The part that could talk your ear off. The playful part. The part that asked all the questions. The part that loved in boundless ways.  Somewhere along the way, I learned which versions of me were acceptable and which ones needed to be hidden. I learned how to read the room, adjust my tone, soften my edges, and make myself smaller so others could feel comfortable.  And for a while, that w

I grew up with a single mothers and saw her selflessness as an act to be admired. What I didn’t see at the time was how that dimmed her light. I grew up believing that being good meant being accommodating, saying yes even when I wanted to say no. That being loved meant being useful. That my worth was tied to how much I did.  As the eldest daughter, I learned early on that my needs came second, often time last. And for a long time, I wore that like a badge of honor. But there

Why Malas Hijas Club exists: a healing community for daughters unlearning good daughter conditioning, choosing themselves, and reclaiming identity without guilt.

I made you a playlist! Scroll to the bottom to hear it. But first, a quick story. I love music. Like… I love  music. I love to sing (even though I am not much of a singer).  I’m that friend who claims every song as “this is my jam.”  Maybe in a past life I was a musician or a singer, because music moves through me in a way that feels ancestral. Even though I don’t have the talent, I deeply admire how artists create music that transcends. Music that touches parts of our shared

Lessons on fear, perfectionism, nervous system regulation, and building community as a therapist Let me paint the picture. I’m in an 8-week business program, and I challenged myself to host an event to see if local therapists would be interested. And of course, the badass in me said, “Yup, I’ll rise to the challenge.” But the day of the event? Whew. My nervous system had other thoughts. The fear parts showed up LOUD: What if no one comes? What if everyone hates it? What if th